This has been a common theme that is popping up in my world lately.
Do you have a challenge with receiving?
If you have been struggling with:
These are all indicators that you may have an issue with receiving.
If you feel like you come last on your own priority list then it is likely you have an issue with receiving.
I still catch myself doing this sometimes and I watch women around me do it too!
Women have learned to give and give and give. We have not learned how to receive. When it is our turn to receive we are not sure how to do it, or what it even feels like. And then there is this little thing called guilt.
Have you experienced this?
Have you ever been ready to do something for yourself, and then you see the price and you stop? Full stop!
And next, you might convince yourself that you need the money for something else. The kids,...
Just yesterday, I found myself in a position where I had spent years working toward one result, only to realize that wasn’t what I truly wanted. All my work had been in vain or had it?
I had already released the need for the big house, the fancy cars, the trappings of a better life. A better life according to who? Not me, I realized.
I had to take a step back and ask myself whose beliefs were these? Were they even mine? Turns out they weren’t. They were projections of others that I had bought into believing that I would be successful when I had (fill in the blank here). Can you relate?
The truth was none of these things was ever going to make me feel successful. They just left me spinning in a circle wondering how to pay the bills, and emotionally drained. And still feeling like my best wasn’t good enough.
So when I started to spin and the emotions were coming up fast and heavy, I had to go to work on collapsing more of my...
Is it when your belly is full and you are not feeling hungry any more? Or . . . is it when your heart is content and wrapped in joy?
Have you ever struggled with a busy mind? Where your ideas jump all over the place and you can't keep a train of thought for more than a few seconds.
I often experience this brain chaos and while it can be exhilarating for a short time I have come to realize that it is a big part of the energy drain. Think of your body being pushed into fight or flight mode by this constant chaos. That causes the adrenals to release cortisol over and over again.
Now, remember the adrenals are there for a reason, to kick us into high gear and get the adrenaline pumping so we could save ourselves from the immediate danger. The problem is for many of us today we are in this state almost constantly and as a result, we experience adrenal fatigue. The glands are depleted and they just shut down.
So why am I sharing this today?...
You may have heard the phrase expectations are pre-meditated resentments. It's a little like scripting how someone else will behave without them having a copy of the script. How can they possibly know how you are expecting them to react? And why should they know? They don't have a crystal ball! And yet we often expect them to know exactly how we want them to behave.
This topic came up for me recently and I realized that with certain relationships in my life (read spouse, close friends, and family) I often decide ahead of time how things will go down. Now I don't mean I sit and deliberate about it consciously. It's more of an act of my subconscious mind. The subconscious brain automatically fills in the blanks of the rest of the story based on past trauma and events. It is a recipe for disaster!
It feels like I blink and the pattern is set. My husband will come into the house and I will ask him something and he doesn't...