Mirrors and Triggers
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Have you ever been in a situation where you watch two people trigger the hell out of each other? Where whatever one says the other reacts too. What if you think of it like this. One person behaves in a certain way and it acts as a mirror for the other person. They see, feel or recognize something they don’t like within themselves. They make a choice and behave in a certain way that is comfortable for them and likely a pattern. If they are not aware of what is happening they may react with an emotion like anger, frustration, or guilt. This often will then set off the other person because it is again reflecting back on them.
Take a moment and consider who is currently acting as a mirror for you? Hint: Think about your children and the one that annoys you on the regular.
Now think of the people you encounter on a daily basis, at work, at home, during your day to day activities. Now, remember who irritated you? What was it that they did or said that bothered you? Now ask yourself what was it that you were choosing not to see in yourself. What is it about them that reminded you of you and a part of you that you are not okay with. Use this as a tool to see where you need to go next on your healing journey.
When someone triggers you, they are highlighting or shining the light on an area you need to look at. Be curious and explore what it is that is behind your irritation or anger. This selfless act can be a huge key to your growth and expansion if you choose to use it.
Recently, during a training weekend, a good friend of mine was not wanting to receive. She was putting up walls and blocking out some people who were willing to help and share energy with her. At the time I didn’t realize it, but she was actually mirroring for me. Later that same weekend, it was my turn to receive. I embrace having someone giving me energy work. Yet, once I got on her table,.she pointed out that I had my barriers up and she was right! It took me a bit to allow myself to relax and receive what she was offering. Isn't it interesting that we can see these things in others and yet we are not as quick to see them in ourselves/
Receiving comes in all kinds of ways and if we are open and willing we can use all experiences to guide our journey. Ask yourself now if you are open to receiving. Then take a deep breath and lean in and ask yourself if you are open to receiving? Many of us have experienced giving, giving, giving, and have not had receiving modelled for us.
Think about the last time someone tried to give you a compliment. How did you react? What did you say? Did you try and brush it off? Did you slap them in the face by rebutting it? This may be a good indicator that you are not open to receiving. Give it some thought and see if choosing a different response could allow you to open and receive.
Watch for signs as you go through your week. Are you ready to receive? Who is mirroring you and triggering you? Where can you go with this? What is the next step on your healing journey?